I was told my whole life that being gay is a choice. If you are in a relationship that you did not choose to be in I recommend you reevaluate that relationship and make a choice. Do you want to be in the relationship you are in? Does your partner, lover, spouse treat you with respect and kindness? We do get to choose who we want to be in a relationship with. Who we are attracted to is totally random and beyond our control. It doesn’t matter if you are gay, straight, polyamorous, polygamous, pansexual etc. It is however very important to choose who you spend your time with. Hopefully we all choose to be with people who love us, we love them, and that love makes us feel free to be our weird selves. Love should be a safe space to express the trials of life not a whipping post for our hardships.